7 Perfect Things To Do Before Marriage

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8. Spend Time Alone

The more comfortable you are with yourself, the more likely you are to attract someone who will be comfortable with you.

Be Financially Independent

Along the same lines of being able to live on your own, having a solid grasp on your own finances will go a long way in making you feel ready to get hitched. “Whether you have a career or a good-paying job, being financially independent means you are not going to get married because you need to,” says Stewart. “You have worth.” This also means that should you for any reason split up or divorce, you’ll be able to stand on your own two feet.

3. Lock-in On Group Settings

For many, the group setting is the perfect opportunity to pull back, check their phone, and zone out of the conversation–but not you. Pay close attention in a group setting, you’ll be able to learn how to connect with others by what they say, how they say it, and even what people choose not to say. Be aware of who likes to lead the conversation, what people like to talk about, and if someone is being excluded from the conversation.

3. Talk about money before marriage

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The financial things to do before getting married involves how to generate revenues and manage finances after wedding.

It is one among the most interesting and helpful pre marriage and post marriage advice that people should put into consideration appropriate measure to decide how much money should be saved or spent.

Remember that marriage is not a thing for the teens but for people who’re physically, emotionally and mentally mature. So it won’t be nice to repeat several money mistakes you’ve made when you were not in a serious relationship.

6. Make a deal breakers list

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Write out things you really don’t want your partner make you go against just like they have values that you shouldn’t compromise either.

Talk it out and find out what’s the opinion of your partner about the deal breakers in the relationship.

7. Faith

When it comes to genuine faith, it’s a part of you that should be oozing out of your life long before marriage. But just as important as it is to retain our individual relationship with God, it’s important to connect in our faith experiences as we look toward marriage. Discussions about prayer life, reading God’s word, spiritual roles, theological beliefs, and denominational preferences are all things that need to be considered and discussed as you move forward.

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Priorities in Marriage

It is an institution which is based on equal rights and duties. The relationship must be based on fairness. Double standards can not exist in a relationship. Compromises have to be from both sides (not only the girls side)!

Only when couples respect each other, there is a possibility of love.

We hear that love is the most important thing in mWe hear that love is the most important thing in marriage but I think that love is very difficult without respect, fairness and responsibility. So I personally have my relationship priority list as follows:

Conclusion

I hope you learned something from this article. I would love you to comment your marriage priority list below. What do you rate most important in a marriage? Please comment.

Develop a Hobby or Two

Hobbies not only make you more interesting, Stewart explains, but they give you your own time and space, which will come in handy when you enter your marriage. Whether it’s running, reading, writing, yoga or meditation, having an outlet to express yourself and relieve tension and stress in your life will make you a better spouse and a happier person overall.

10. Struggles

One thing I know about marriage, is that it magnifies everything. Your strengths…and your weaknesses. Before you enter the pressure-cooker of marriage, you need to get real with your bad-habits and hang-ups here and now. Do you have a tendency to express anger through rage? Do you struggle with any addictive behaviors? Are there any areas in your life that you need to expose and address before you move forward toward marriage? Take the time to talk frankly and honestly about your struggles, and make the time to work toward hope and healing.

The season before marriage is a rich and joyous time in a couple’s life. Don’t allow the pressure of creating the “perfect wedding” to keep you from focusing on what really matters. Plan your wedding, but most importantly, plan your marriage- because a healthy marriage is something worth truly celebrating.   Article ran originally on truelovedates.com. Used with permission.   Debra K. Fileta is a Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in Relationship and Marital issues. She, her husband and two children live in Hershey, PA. She is the author of the new book True Love Dates (Zondervan, 2013), challenging young men and women to do dating in a way that is psychologically sound, emotionally healthy and spiritually grounded. Visit www.truelovedates.com and follow her on Twitter to get your dating questions answered and to learn more.

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