How to stop receiving spam friend requests on Facebook

Facebook Spam Messages FAQs

Where are spam messages on Facebook?

Spam messages are located under message requests in messenger. Facebook automatically filters spam messages which is why it is quite hard to locate. Once you have located the Message Requests in messenger, scroll down to the bottom page and you will find a small link that says, See Spam.

What does spam messages mean on Facebook?

Spam messages are messages sent to you by a non-friend Facebook user. As a way of securing your account, Facebook automatically assumes them as spam. It may include bulk messages and messages with excessive links. If you happen to receive one of those, it will be automatically placed under filtered messages.

How do I check my spam messages on messenger?

To check your spam messages on messenger, open the main message inbox in either the messenger app or in desktop. Then click the gear icon on the top left corner to view Message Requests. You will then see the list of message requests that you have. Scroll down to the bottom of the list and click the small link that says, See Spam.

How do I stop spam messages on Facebook?

You can easily stop spam messages by tweaking your settings. First, log in to your account and click on the menu arrow in the top right-hand corner to go to Privacy Settings. Look for the How You Connect settings then hit the edit settings link next to it. You can then adjust the privacy level you want based on who can look you up using your name, send you friend requests, and messages.

Can you get a virus just by opening a Facebook message? Opening a Facebook message does not automatically give you a virus. Your concern should be the content of the message. Does it contain a random file that is asking you to download it? Or suspicious links and images? If yes, the chance of getting a virus is higher. But worry less because Facebook is doing good in filtering suspicious links and binary files in Messenger.


Can you remind someone to accept your friend request

No, you can’t remind someone to accept your friend request. And please, to keep your reputation intact, do not reach out to this person. She may be snubbing you. There’s no need to contact or remind someone to accept your friend request. If someone doesn’t accept your request, move on.

You must maintain your pride and dignity at this point.

(I know it’s difficult and hard not to obsess about it. It’s normal to feel confused, hurt, and mad. You might feel that way for a long time. It’s okay to have these feelings. You are NOT ALONE in perhaps being snubbed, blown off, forgotten about, power-played, and overall having this situation happen to you. Your reactions are normal.)

Remember though, this person may not be doing anything to intentionally hurt you. You just never know.

People who accept more friend requests have a higher for fake ones

If you seem to keep getting fake friend requests in spite of your best efforts, you may have already accepted too many in the past. Researchers from Facebook and Harvard have determined that friendly users who are overly welcoming to friend requests may be putting themselves at risk for more fake friends.


Using a mathematical algorithm, they were able to verify with high accuracy that highly-accepting users are much more valuable targets for scammers and creators of fake profiles.

In the graph above, people on the >1 side of the plot are more likely to receive requests from real people, while people on the <1 side are more likely to receive requests from fakes. Using this method, they were able to accurately deduce which profiles were fake, which helps Facebook remove the profiles before they have a chance to do more harm.

And it’s a good thing when these profiles get removed, especially now of all times. In light of the COVID-19 quarantine, cybercriminals and scammers are using Facebook messenger and fake profiles to trap users with phishing links.

According to an alert by The Better Business Bureau, scammers have started to message users they aren’t friends with about the latest coronavirus treatments and prevention tips, as well as “deals” on masks and PPE. These links, of course, are not legitimate. If you click one, you’ll be directed to a scam site that steals your personal data.

If you receive a random friend request from someone you don’t know, don’t get too excited right off the bat. Take time to ask yourself the questions above and work to narrow down whether the user is real or fake before clicking “accept.”

Social media isn’t a race, and the user with the most friends doesn’t end up winning anything. In fact, your experience might be better off with just a small circle of close friends you know and love.

And hey, that’s one way to reduce the annoying conspiracy posts clogging your timeline. Tap or click here to see how to spot fake COVID-19 news on Facebook.

What does it mean when someone doesnt accept your friend request

If someone doesn’t accept your friend request, it means they don’t want to be friends with you on Facebook. It’s important to remember things aren’t always as they seem, so it’s easy to assume she is ignoring you. This may or may not be the case.

Not accepting your friend request

From experience, I know many people have a long list of friends they sent friend requests to and those people never responded. Years later, those friend requests are hanging out there. Chances are, those people never looked at their friend request icon through a laptop to see all the requests they have. You can only do so much through a mobile phone.

So try not to take it personally, especially if they are long-ago friends.

I also know four people who purposely want to limit how many Facebook friends they have. I have another friend who uses Facebook to stay in touch with people she doesn’t see in real, everyday life; she only has long-distance friends.

Friend request denied

Think about someone not accepting your friend request on Facebook. Yikes! It stings. What do you do? Our advice is to do NOTHING. Don’t ask them why they didn’t accept your request. Don’t ask them why they denied your friend request. Please don’t ask them if they saw your friend request. 

Focus on the friends you do have and who do want to connect with you. Try not to waste your energy and emotions on those who do not. (Yes, easier said than done. Next week it won’t be as important to you as it is now. Hang tight.)

Related: Not being invited

Remember that with Facebook, there is usually something to make you happy or something to make you upset. Someone not accepting your friend request is a big Facebook problem we have to deal with. But try to focus on the positive: The people you are friends with and the Facebook friends you do have.

If someone sends you a friend request, do you automatically accept it? Or do you purposely wait and play mind games? Is there ever a reason you don’t accept a friend request? Do you accept all requests (assuming it’s not spam)? Leave your Comments below.